别跟它在一起 Don’t Stay With It
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一旦发觉到自己受伤了，自己被误会了，自己被冤枉了，自己有苦难言了，自己……，请马上把它丢到东洋大海，一丝也不要留恋！
这全都是情绪性反应，你要善于辨认它。
负面的想法一出现，都是不符顺于慈悲心、智慧的，全部丢掉。这很简单的。
问题是你不愿意丢掉，这才是麻烦的事。为什么你不愿意丢掉？因为你跟它——-你跟它同在！你已把它视为你生命里不可缺少的一部分，好像没有了它你会死掉一样！
这是很大的问题。
有智慧的人，要看清楚，把问题切割出来。
别人看不起你？对！我差啊，所以我要努力。
别人误会你了？是！我的业不好，所以我要致力改善。
别人伤害我了？对！我要更坚强。
别人对我……？对！我改变，我改善。
这就是对，这就是勇气。
万万不能说：别人看不起我，我就不做了。
如果你一直这样，你就一直喂养我爱执。我爱执会跟你说：“看，别人看不起你，你就不要做了！你看你多可怜啊！你是世界上最可怜的人！” 我爱执很贴心的安慰你，鼓励你。你越被鼓励，越被安慰，就一直护着它。你与它为伍，变成生命不可缺少的良伴。结果就害惨你了。
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The moment you feel hurt, misunderstood, wronged, or unable to express your pain—throw it all into the vast ocean without hesitation. Do not cling to it, not even a little.
These are all emotional reactions. Learn to recognize them.
The moment negative thoughts arise, know that they are not aligned with compassion or wisdom—so let them go. It is actually simple.
The real problem is not that you cannot let go, but that you are unwilling to. Why? Because you are living together with these thoughts—you have made them part of your identity, as though without them, you cannot exist.
This is the real danger.
A wise person learns to separate the problem from oneself.
If others look down on you? Then improve.
If others misunderstand you? Then refine your actions.
If others hurt you? Then become stronger.
This is courage.
But if you say, “They look down on me, so I’ll stop trying,” then you are feeding your self-attachment. It comforts you, protects you, and slowly becomes your closest companion—until it destroys you.
