Refrain From Being Too Demanding On The Students

This topic on “Education” is very profound. I am still learning and exploring. I hope we can learn from each other. Saying this is not out of modesty, it is my very sincere feeling. If the relationship between teachers and students is not manage well, it can turn into opposition. It is because of the continuous demands on the students that, it will make them seem passive and have to follow whatever you want him to do. In this way, the students do not have any freedom and have to follow and grow up in concordance with your requirements. Long after that, he might say: “No!” I’m going to do it my way”. When he decides to do that, you will find that there is a very huge disparity between his and your demands.

At this time he would find that – “You are the one who actually took away all my freedom!” Hence, defeating you may become his aim, and this will probably be one area that makes many teachers feel bitterly disappointed. After going through so much hardships and doing your best in all possible ways to care for the student, yet he could not accept it but instead misunderstood your painstaking efforts. Then what is the meaning of putting in all these efforts? One might be deeply saddened by this. It seems that all teachers have gone through this process.

Translation and review by Shirley Lim and Chiang Sheau Huey

避免一直要求学生

教育这个课题太深邃了，我正在学习和探讨中，希望我们互相学习，我这样说绝对不是谦虚，是一种很真心的感觉。师生之间弄不好会变成有点对立，因为一直要求学生，他似乎永远都是被动的，你要他怎样就是怎样，完全没有自由，必须按照你的要求那样去成长久了之后呢，他可能会说：“不！我要自己来”当他决定要自己来的时候，你会发现，和我们的要求有太多太多的不一样。

这个时候他会发现──实际上让我最不自由的就是你！那么把你打垮可能就会成为他的目标，这可能是让很多老师最寒心的一个地方。自己含辛茹苦，费尽心思照顾着的学生，却不能接受甚至完全误会自己的一番苦心，那么所做的一切努力到底有什么意义？可能就会非常地伤感。好像所有的老师都经历过这个过程。