【业果 The Varieties of Karma】会说话的两头瞒 Detrimental information between two parties is withheld by those who know how to speak.
业果 : 会说话的两头瞒
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日常师父法语📡55A 08'07" ~ 09'14" 手抄稿第七册P227 LL3
55A 08'07" ~ 09'14" Vol 7 of Master Jih-Chang’s Discourse P227 LL3
English Lamrim Vol 1 P229
【The Varieties of Karma】- Detrimental information between two parties is withheld by those who know how to speak.
When I was first ordained, my teacher told me this, "Those who do not know how to speak would add fuel to the fire between the two parties." and "Those who do know how to speak would withhold detrimental information between the two parties." I continue to benefit from this until now. I continue to benefit from this until now! It is unavoidable that people may run into things that make them unhappy. Then we would often appease them by telling them, "Right! You are right, you are right!" You should not say that he is right. When you say that he is right, he will feel that way. This would add fuel to the fire (worsen the situation). If you pity him, you will have harmed him and yourself. What should you do then? When you encounter situation like this, you might want to say this, "Actually, he didn't mean it. I know. After he did that, I talked to him about it, he actually felt quite apologetic to you." If you say this after the incident, he will gradually declutter his mind. Right? Therefore, you would have imperceptibly done virtuous. Thus, you should remember this, "Those who do not know how to speak would add fuel to the fire between the two parties." "Those who do know how to speak would withhold detrimental information between the two parties." If you are speaking on behalf of your own interest, then it is even more horrendous, more horrendous!