【Listening】 – When someone criticizes you 

If someone criticizes you, you will grumble for three days. You discern it incorrectly due to ignorance! Wouldn’t it be better to leave [that person] alone? If you understand the teaching, whatever others say about you, if he is right, you should be grateful to him because he spoke up so you can improve! If he is wrong, then it is just right for you to practice forbearance - wouldn’t that increase your merits? There can’t be a better opportunity either way; these situations are all your virtuous teachers. However, you don’t view it this way, rather, you grumble in your mind. Thus, others can’t actually harm you; you are the one harming yourself! Why? Ignorance! You took in what should not be believed, this is the root cause; this is the basis of the mistake.

SOURCE 来源 :

9B 19'00" ~ 19'44" Vol 2 of Master Jih-Chang’s Discourse P29 L1
English Lamrim Vol 1 P56

日常师父法语📡9B 19'00" ~ 19'44" 手抄稿第2册P29 L1

听闻 : 当别人讲我时

别人说你一下，你心里嘀咕个三天，你自己在邪妄的分别，因为无明！你不理他不是很好吗？假如你懂得佛法，人家说你的话，他说对了，你感激他，因为他说了你能改正！如果他说不对，正好成就你忍辱，不是增长你功德吗？这再好不过的事情，不管在那一方面都是你的善知识。你现在反过来不这样，还在自己心里面叽哩呱啦，所以的的确确不是人家害你，自己害。为什么呢？愚痴！把这个不应该信的听信他了，这个是毛病的根本。