【Going for Refuge to the Three Jewels】- when we cultivate, we need companions

Well then this is the last part which is going to the community for refuge. This says that when we cultivate, we need companions, companions. Well then, “The practice that accords with this is training in the way of those who are intent upon liberation.” This would mean being with the people who are here now, people who are here now. You help me and I help you. We help each other along. If I have some faults, I depend on you to advise me. I depend on you to let me know when you see it. Like that. Therefore we should know and this was said yesterday. Yes, when you see others making a mistake, we should advise them but your mentality should be entirely different. As soon as you examine your own mind a little bit and you will know [what your mentality is]. If in your mind you cannot stand the ways of others, and feel that they are wrong, then you would have already been wrong yourself. The first thing you should do is to purify your thoughts and yourself. If you are acting correctly and discover that others have made a mistake, at that time, you can, in a mild and non-confrontational manner, address the person in question - “So and so, you have done this wrongly”. You can then gently advise the details of what they have done wrongly. That is the correct manner. This is one example that we can readily see now.

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46A 14’51” Vol 6 of Master Jih-Chang’s Discourse P184 LL2
English Lamrim Vol 1 P194

日常师父法语📡46A 14’51” 手抄稿第6册P184 LL2

皈依 : 依靠身边的同伴

皈依僧的话，说这个我们要修行，我们有一个共同的伴，共同的伴。那么共同的伴这个随顺行，就是我们眼前的那些人，眼前那些人。你帮我忙，我帮你忙，共同扶持，我有错了，靠你来规劝，靠你看见了来告诉我，这样。所以这个地方我们了解，昨天已经说过了，是的，你看见了别人的不对的时候，那个时候我们要规劝，可是心理状态完全不一样，这个只要自己内心检查一下就很清楚。如果说那个时候心里面就是忍不住人家的那一些作法，他觉得不对，那个时候自己已经错了，那第一件事情净化自己。你做对了，发现人家不对，那个时候委曲婉转说：「某人啊，你错了！」然后轻轻巧巧地告诉别人，这个才对，这是眼前一例。