【 How to rely in practice  】- Excuse yourself with soothing words

This must be very skillful and tactful, very tactfully say: “O Master! I am really not able! I beg your pardon, I cannot do that!” He may berate you, just let him. Actually, if you can bear his berating joyfully, it helps to clear your obscurations and increases your blissful and wisdom merits, this we have to understand. You will then become very delighted. It is just like what was mentioned earlier about the interaction of Geshe Lha-so and his master. Well, [Geshe Lha-so] went to his great master who berated him, and then his disciple wondered why the great master kept on berating [Geshe Lha-so]. Geshe Lha-so said: “You still think that he is berating you! To me, it is like a personal blessing from my chosen deity.” Well, just like that!

SOURCE 来源 :

20A 18’04” Vol 3 of Master Jih-Chang’s Discourse P118 LL3
English Lamrim Vol 1 P86

日常师父法语📡20A 18’04” 手抄稿第3册P118 LL3

加行亲近轨理 : 婉转辞谢

【应善辞谢而不随转。】

要很善巧地、婉转地说，很婉转地说：[师父呀，我实在不行！我请你多多原谅，我做不到呀！]他说不定会骂你，骂了就这样让他骂了。实际上，你骂了能够欢欢喜喜忍受，消你的业障，增长你的福德智慧，这个我们要了解的。那个时候你就很欢喜，所以像前面那个画师跟他的师父两个人一样，欸，跑得去他那个善知识把他痛骂一顿，然后他那个弟子觉得，他那个师公怎么老骂我。画师说：[你还觉得他骂你呀！我是像得到那个本尊亲自的加持一样。]欸，就这样！